Ty for trying to help
I figured it out! I had to talk to Adisa, but she did not have a quest marker and had wandered off. So, it was both a minor bug AND me missing something!
I went back and re-read Michael telling me to talk to Nan and Adisa. Nan needed time to think, so i had to track down Adisa who was nowhere around.
I had her working the Processor, so she was off where-ever. I set her to Dweller and used the "call" function from her info panel in the colony. she popped in next to me with a quest marker. (again, the quest marker never showed on the mini map. man, i have grown too reliant on quest markers in these last 10 years since they appeared in video games)
Then i made a nuke (didnt see THAT one coming!)